The constitution is the law of a State, it is superior to other laws, it marks the rights and freedoms of citizens, establishes the mechanisms of public participation and the form of government. The constitutional norms are those that determine the foundation of the legal, political, public, economic, social order and the duties and rights of its citizens.
Does this sound like something to you? It should because it's what we do every day, and that is, at home, the constitution is made by parents. We impose the rules and limits on our children, we set the rules to follow and the order that should guide them. It sounds important, but it is like that, at home ... We are the law!
Imagine one of those judges with a gown and gavel who from his pulpit impose law and pass sentence on the accused. Well, that's how we are at home, yes, without a gown, without a mallet and without a pulpit. But there we are, pick and shovel, imposing law on our children, that although it sounds very authoritarian, it is still a reality.
Parents create rules and regulations that our children must follow. Each parent creates their own, some think that the most important thing is that children do their best to get good grades and others believe that the most important thing is respect in the family.
But what happens if we don't introduce laws at home? The same as in life outside the home, anarchy, that is, lack of leadership, chaos, lack of control ... At home, creating a horizontal hierarchy that does not compromise the freedom of others is too idyllic and I think, counterproductive in the case of children.
Our children need these rules and regulations to grow and develop in society, to live with others, to know their rights but also their obligations, to respect and be respected.
- We must not create a huge list of rules for children, they are not machines and they are also in the full learning phase, let them learn little by little.
- We must explain clearly what we expect from them. That "behave yourself" thing is too diffuse. We can have a family meeting in which we explain what 3 things they have to accomplish, for example, not hitting, cleaning their room and doing their homework. We can put it on paper that all family members sign. We will remember the rules often.
- When children do not follow the rules we have established, we will put educational consequences. They must know what will happen if they do not clean their room or do not do their homework. It is not about punishment but about teaching them the consequences of their actions.
- It is not necessary to establish an absolutist hierarchy, we can give our children options and leave them a space of freedom so that they can choose. "You have to get dressed, do you want to choose your clothes or do I do it?"
- Arguing everything we say or hope is counterproductive, especially at certain ages, but it is important explain in some circumstances why they should not lean out of the window or drink lots of cold water if they are sweating. We must warn them and warn them of the dangers.
- We have to be firm in our decisions, If they see us doubt, it may be used to carry out a "small coup".
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